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Learn How Overparenting Can Undermine Your Child's Education
Manchester, NH
01/06/2017 12:45 PM


Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure, will present at The Derryfield School on Monday, January 30 from 7:00 - 9:00 p.m. in the Lyceum as part of the E. Charles Sanborn Visiting Fellow Program.

Lahey’s presentation will focus on the value of parenting for intrinsic motivation by fostering autonomy, competence, and connection and by taking advantage of personal relevance, desirable difficulties, and formative assessments in learning.

The Gift of Failure explores the essential school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience disappointment, frustration, and failure so they may become successful and resilient adults.

Lahey reminds us that over-parenting or helicopter-parenting can destroy a child’s confidence and ultimately undermine their education. Beyond academic skills, children must develop life skills including responsibility, organization, and manners to become resilient and successful lifelong learners and contributing members of a community.

The Gift of Failure provides specific strategies and advice regarding homework, report cards, athletics, and social interactions. Lahey provides a plan to help parents learn to embrace their children’s successes—and failures.

Book purchase and signing will be available following the presentation.

This event is free and open to the public. The Derryfield School is located on 2108 River Road in Manchester, NH, with easy access to Routes 93 and 293.

Author Bio:

Jessica Lahey is an educator, writer, and speaker. She is an English and writing teacher, correspondent for the Atlantic, commentator for Vermont Public Radio, and writes the "Parent-Teacher Conference" column for the New York Times. She is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in New Hampshire with her husband and two sons.


The Derryfield School is a coeducational, non-sectarian, college-preparatory day school currently serving 399 students in grades 6-12 from 50 communities. The mission of The Derryfield School is to inspire bright, motivated young people to be their best and provide them with the skills and experiences needed to be valued, dynamic, confident, and purposeful members of any community. For more information about the school, please visit

Dawn Kilcrease
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